The Grief Gurus

Why Doesn't Anyone Talk About This Part of Grief?

Lisa Chase McFarland + Carol Banens

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Grief is part of your story. But not the whole story.

There are parts of grief that almost everyone experiences—but very few people ever talk about.

What if, after your loved one died, you felt relief?

What if you found yourself feeling hurt, frustrated, or even resentful toward the people around you?

These emotions can be deeply unsettling, leaving many grieving people wondering, "What's wrong with me?" The truth is, these reactions are far more common than most of us realize. Yet because they're uncomfortable to admit, many people carry them silently, believing they're somehow grieving the "wrong" way.

In this episode, we have an honest conversation about the hidden emotions of grief—especially the ones that can bring shame or self-judgment. We explore why feelings like relief, resentment, disappointment, or frustration can naturally arise after a profound loss and why experiencing them doesn't diminish your love for the person who died.

In this conversation, we'll discuss:

• Why relief can be a normal part of grief after a long illness or caregiving journey
• The surprising reasons you may feel hurt, frustrated, or resentful after a loss
• Why these emotions don't make you a bad person—they make you human
• How unspoken feelings can keep us feeling isolated and ashamed
• The healing power of talking honestly about the parts of grief that most people hide

One of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves is permission to tell the truth about our grief—even when that truth feels messy or confusing.

Our hope is that this conversation helps you replace self-judgment with self-compassion and reminds you that you're not alone. Because when we begin talking openly about the parts of grief that no one seems to discuss, healing becomes a little less lonely.

If this conversation resonates with you, we'd love to hear from you in the comments. Your honesty may be exactly what someone else needs to feel seen.

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Show Notes + Resources:

Grief Gurus Healing Community: www.thegriefgurus.com

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Lisa McFarland: https://lisamcfarland.com/

Carol Banens: https://carolbanens.com/

Information on books written and published by Lisa and Carol can be found on their individual websites, social media profiles and Amazon.